I doubt that anyone gets through life without ever feeling utterly humiliated.
But what should you do when it happens to you? Humiliation can feel way too painful. You might even still sometimes think about what you could have done at the time, or after, to protect yourself. That's what I'm here for. To give you advise on how to avoid these incredibly horrible experiences.
First of all, be aware of your surroundings and of your actions.
If you ever find yourself in an unpleasant situation or you just have a gut feeling that's telling you that the people around you seem a bit off, try to get out of that situation asap!You can say something like, "I'm really not ready to discuss this with you right now" or "Sorry I have to go", or nothing at all. Sometimes you don't have to explain yourself. Just leave as quickly as you can.
I am not a therapist or an expert, but try to understand the other person’s motivation.
Once you're out of harm's way, you can think about what might be going on. Understanding does not mean forgiving or feeling sorry for the other person. It simply helps you not to take their actions personally, and seeing more clearly that it’s about them, not you.
Treat people the way you want to be treated.
If you don't want to be humiliated, don't try to embarrass others.
If you want to be treated nicely, be kind to the people around you.
You wouldn't be friendly to someone,who is being a dirtbag towards you... or would you?
Just to be clear: I don’t need anyone to humiliate me, I do just fine embarrassing myself and that's okay. Just shrug it off and move on.
And the most important thing is: DON'T GIVE A DAMN.
Live your life. If that "someone's " intention is to humiliate you, then don't let him get what he wants.
Just be neutral or if you can be polite. You can say something like “well, thank you for your opinion. I always appreciate when someone is straightforward!“ Then, smile and nod as if the person actually complimented you. This will confuse the heck out of the shamer. Don't let them think you care about what they are saying to you. Don't take their insults by heart, because such people are not worth a thought.
A quick reminder: Nobody can take your dignity as a human being, unless you willingly give it up. In the end it's up to you to decide, whether you let yourself getting humiliated by someone or not.
